Explore Your Relationships       Loving Relationships ●  Loving Customer Relationships  ●  Conflict Resolution   Fools talk mouth-to-mouth. Intelligent people talk mouth-to-ear. Wise people and lovers talk soul-to-soul. VadiK Inventor Author Founder     NLP Approach       Don't forget that your and your prospect's map of the reality is not the same – the meaning of the same thing is different for different people   ① Explore what you think about the relationship. Label both your own and the other person's behavior.  Change the state – shake off all bad feelings. ② Explore the relationship from the other person's point of view. Imagine how they experience your behavior. What sort of label would they put on it? How do they feel? Shake off that emotional state before continuing. ③ Go outside the relationship, become a detached observer – imagine a stage and see both of you on stage. See that other person doing what they do, and see yourself responding to them. ④ Shift your question from 'How can I change that person's behavior?' to 'How am I reinforcing or triggering that person's behavior?' Explore how else you could respond to him or her. If you really want to understand someone, free yourself from your ego and become the person you want to understand. VadiK Inventor Author Founder   "Tact is the ability to describe others as they see themselves." ~ Abraham Lincoln   A Short Course on Relationship   The Golden Rule: Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire... Forget injuries, never forget kindnesses. Confucius   "No one should go to another monastery with one's own charter." ~ Russian proverb   Empathetic Leadership   The bird thinks it is an act of kindness to give the fish a lift in the air. Tagore   "I've learned... That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand." ~ Andy Rooney   Empathy Psychological Needs   The only way to have a friend is to be one. Ralph Waldo Emerson