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Understand and Fulfill Needs of Others
The Golden Rule says, "Do unto others as you
would have them do unto you."
To
achieve a 360 success in all areas of
your life
and business, you must strive to create a greater – and unique! – value for
people around you. Just creating some value is not enough. You must
Be be different
and very special in their lives.
Your People Skills 360
People are motivated for their reasons, not
yours. Satisfy the deepest needs of people around you. The deepest need that
each person has is for self-esteem, a sense of being important, and
valuable. Everything that you do in your interactions with other people
affects their self-esteem in some way. Continually look for ways to make
people feel more valuable and important.
Listen carefully,
ask questions to show that
you are genuinely interested and you'll be amazed at the spin-offs from
becoming a good question asker and a good listener. People appreciate,
respect and value others who are great listeners.
The Tao of Effective Listening
Helping Yourself by Helping Others
One of the golden rules of the therapy
profession is that everyone needs at least one person with whom they can
openly and unashamedly discuss every little detail – happenings, desires,
fears – of their life, whether it is from the past, present, or future.
There are other psychological needs – to be accepted unconditionally,
appreciated, recognized, respected, desired, valued, approved of, or
complimented – that affect the way we communicate with each other.
You grow when you help others. “It is one of
the most beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to
help another without helping himself,” said Ralph Waldo Emerson.
In order to help others to grow, you need to be
a good example for them. You must stretch yourself. To teach and inspire
others, you must learn a lot and be inspired yourself. You must learn how to
motivate yourself and others.
Get Interested in People and Show Your
Appreciation
"You can make more friends in two months by
becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to
get other people interested in you," advised Dale Carnegie.
Continually express appreciation. Say “thank
you” on every occasion. A simple way to make another person feel good about
himself or herself is your continuous expressions of appreciation for
everything that person does for you, large or small. “Thank your spouse for
everything that he or she does for you. Thank your children for their
cooperation and support in everything that they do around the house. Thank
your friends for the smallest of kindnesses. The more you thank other people
for doing things for you, the more things those other people will want to
do,” advises Brian Tracy.
Resolve to focus your energy on helping others
feel valued and appreciated. Show your appreciation with a thank-you, or a
smile. Call up someone you haven't spoken to in a while, just to catch up on
how they are. If you have children, give one child at a time your full
attention for an evening. Write a note of appreciation to someone who is
important to you.
“Think of the way you'd like to be remembered
by those around you, and give of yourself accordingly throughout the year.
Practice a random act of kindness every day. These little moments, over
time, have a huge impact. The added benefit for you is that you'll be in a
more positive frame of mind overall,” advises Pauline Wallin.
Leading
The Leader Is Best When...
You must learn to be a great leader. Leadership
is essentially about helping people to achieve a better life and
extraordinary results. Great leaders help other people lead themselves,
energize them and help them achieve their
stretch goals.
Inspirational leader: 10 Roles
Coaching
You must learn to be a great
coach. Coaching provides
transformational solutions to real-life problems. It helps people achieve
more and
feel happier.
When you help others grow and enhance their performance and
learning ability,
you increase your own effectiveness as a leader and coach. It is a chain
reaction.
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