VadiK teachings Vadim Kotelnikov

Win-Win Conflict Resolution

Universal Approach  ▪  Example

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Inventor Business e-Coach

Author Innoball

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Two-Part Strategy To Implement

 

  

① Agree that there is no 'Win-Lose', there is either 'Win-Win' or 'Lose-Lose', and chose to think 'Win-Win'.

② Introduce a universal common enemy to be conquered (a big threat) and launch a collaborative inspiring and creative journey toward a common Win-Win goal.

 
 

The Win-Win approach to conflict resolution produces a solution that brings mutual need satisfaction and is acceptable to everyone because everybody feels a winner.

   Win-Win Conflict Resolution

 
Win-Win Conflict Resolution universal approach, Innompic Anthem  

Your proposed Win-Win approach is to be articulated immediately when you start talking in order to create a positive first impression within 30 seconds:
Start your communication with such a statement: The case is not about Me vs. You, it is about us against a dangerous common enemy.

    

 
   

Example

This case is not about A vs. B, is about A and B joining hands to prevent a crime from being born from a small mistake.

 

  

 
Confucius legacy and wisdom quotes

A mistake that is not corrected is a real mistake... If you are not ashamed of your mistakes you make them crimes.

Confucius

 

 
   

① Agree to use the Win-Win approach

First, agree that this is the Win-Win approach that needs to be used.

 

  

 
 

Reframing

All too often the way we frame a conflict contains an assumption that prevents us from resolving it. You may need to reframe the issue in order to embark on a win-win journey.

  

Strategic Win-Win Negotiation

Negotiation DOs and DON'Ts

Shuttle Diplomacy

  

 
 

See the Full Picture

In social interactions, a big-picture view can help progress in win-win negotiations and win-win conflict resolution. Paint a bigger picture that will help the both parties fly well above the minor barriers that block your progress now.

 

Social Skills

Social Intelligence

See the Full Picture

Six Blind Men and an Elephant

  

 
Win-Win Conflict Reslution and Negotiation:  

Agree that there is no 'Win-Lose', there is either 'Win-Win' or 'Lose-Lose', and chose 'Win-Win'.

Often, getting the other party to agree to adopt the Win-Win mindset is the most difficult step of this process. You may have to take them out of their comfort zone first. Do this creatively and gently.

 

 
 

It is extremely important that the both parties of the conflict were not forced to chose the Win-Win approach, but did so willingly.

Sell benefits of the Win-Win approach, use the 'yes, but' formula, be hard on principles and soft on people... Or, better yet, introduce a common enemy that must be conquered.

   Win-Win Negotiation Learn flexibility from water Vadim Kotelnikov

 
   

① Introduce a universal common enemy to be conquered (a big threat)

and launch a collaborative inspiring and creative journey toward a common Win-Win goal

 

  

 
 

Pain a Dangerous Common Enemy

Yes, the practice shows that the most effective way to get the counterpart to adopt the Win-Win mindset is to introduce an external common enemy and offer the other party to fight this common enemy together.

  

Conflict Resolution

No-Lose Method

10-step Yoga Approach to Conflict Resolution

  

 
   

A Universal Common Enemy

A crime that a small mistake can turn into
if it is not corrected in time.

 

  

 
 

Be Open Minded

Don't start the process with one fixed, preconceived solution or a number of alternative solutions. Be and remain open to outside-the-box solutions.

  

Think Win-Win

Yin and Yang of Negotiation

Getting to Yes

  

 
 

Play InnoBall Simulation Game

Play InnoBall to simulate your common journey from the current state to an enemy-free future.

Joint creative activities unite people at deeper levels and make collaboration joyful.

   Conflict Resolution InnoBalll simulation game in progress

 

 
   

Take Perceptual Differences Into Account

 

  

 
Understand and Manage Perceptions in Conflict Resolution  

The situation is the same, but each party perceives it differently.

Develop perceptual awareness and empathy.

Be willing to take different perceptual positions to get a deeper insight into driving forces, differences and synergy opportunities.

  

 
   

This is especially important in intercultural communication that has additional barriers to overcome.

 

  

 

 
   

Prepare to Win-Win

 

  

 
 

"Victorious warriors win first and then go to war, while defeated warriors go to war first and then seek to win," advises Sun Tzu in his classic guidebook The Art of War.

To prepare to win-win, play a simulation game, like InnoBall, aimed at arriving at a desired mutually beneficial solution by overcoming diverse anticipated barriers and challenges as you go.

 		 

Know Your Enemy

Ask Learning SWOT Questions

Negotiation

Wise Agreement

Getting to NO

  

 

 
   

Boost Your Innovative Thinking

 

  

 
 

KoRe 10 metaphoric Innovative Thinking Tools (10KITT) are to help you both anticipate challenges, find creative solutions, and turn problems to opportunities.

   KoRe 10 metaphoric innovative thinking tools (10KITT), Kotelnikov

 

 
   

Lasting Solution

 

  

 
KoRe 3 Synergistic Keys All-Inclusive Love Lasting Peace Vadim Kotelnikob Yin and Yang: The State of Peace Wise strateguzing and implementation One World One Way Many Paths How To Achieve Lasting Peace: KoRe 3 Universal Essentials  

Harmonized Synergy

Each component of a lasting peace − all-inclusive love, the right flow of energies of Yin and Yang, and wise strategizing and implementation − is important, yet it is their creative integration and harmonious synergy that produces best results.