People Skills


Understand others, create value, influence, lead

Vadim Kotelnikov

Vadim Kotelnikov, founder of 1000ventures - personal logo  Vadim Kotelnikov







     "The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people." Theodore Roosevelt





Success Secrets Financial Success People Skills Knowledge People Skills PEOPLE SKILLS: Success Secrets, Financial Success, and The Role of People Skills

Buddha about Happiness

  • Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.

10 Great Communication Quotes


I've Learned...

By: Andy Rooney

I've learned....
That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

I've learned....
That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.


Art, Science, and Practice of Influencing People

  1. The Art asking the right questions about people

  2. The Science answering these questions, analyzing the answers, and evaluating their results

  3. The Practice implementing the solutions

The Leader Is Best When...


12 Active Listening Tips

  • Be aware of biases and perceptions. Control your biases and validate your assumptions.

  • Encourage the speaker, provide feedback and paraphrase to show you are listening... More

10 Steps To Resolving Inner and Outer Conflict

  • Practice Non-Violence (physical, mental and verbal) within yourself and your own life.

  • Assume an Attitude of Non-Possessiveness (physical and emotional) avoiding over accumulation of possessions that causes us to protect and defend... More

How To Solve People Problems


12 Effective Leadership Roles

  1. Bring out best in your men; have common touch with them; coach and provide feedback.

Creative Leadership DOs and DON'Ts

What's Empathy Got to Do With It?

  1. Listen truly listen to people. Listen with your ears, eyes and heart. Pay attention to others' body language, to their tone of voice, to the hidden emotions behind what they are saying to you, and to the context.

Humorous Business Plan

Successful Marriage

Brief History: "Adam and Eve had an ideal marriage. He didn't have to hear about all the men she could have married, and she didn't have to hear about the way his mother cooked." Kimberly Broyles...

Money management skills: "A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband." Montaigne

NLP Technology of Achievement

3 Rules for Dealing with Rude and Unfair Clients

  • Just because they are being negative, you don't have to be rude or defensive concentrate on the problem, not the person.

Ancient Taoist Meditation

  • I seek no contact... and find union... More

Humorous Quotes


  • "A good memory and a tongue tied in the middle is a combination which gives immortality to conversation." ~ Mark Twain.


5 Ways To Be an Unfair Critic

  • Criticize not just the item in question, but the background of the person or company responsible. If you can point out how much you disliked something else from this source, by all means do so

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

By: Stephen R. Covey

Public Victory

  1. Think Win / Win... More

Do You Understand and Fulfill Needs of Others?

One of the golden rules of the therapy profession is that everyone needs at least one person with whom they can openly and unashamedly discuss every little detail happenings, desires, fears of their life, whether it is from the past, present, or future.

There are other psychological needs to be accepted unconditionally, appreciated, recognized, respected, desired, valued, approved of, or complimented that affect the way we communicate with each other. Listen carefully, ask questions to show that you are genuinely interested and you'll be amazed at the spin-offs from becoming a good question asker and a good listener.

Buddha about Conquering

Conquer the angry man by love.

Jesus on Love

"Love your neighbor, but who is your neighbor. Your neighbor is the one who is sent to you from the Divine. Your neighbor can be one who is a total stranger to you from afar. Your neighbor can be someone living close to you. But what is true is that your neighbor is one of the Light who needs your support as much as you need his."

Inspirational Business Plan: True Love

Love Management Skills: "If you judge people, you have no time to love them."   Mother Teresa...

Competition: "Whenever you are confronted with an opponent, conquer him with love."   Mahatma Gandhi

Donald Trump's 5 Tips for Parents

The 10 Key Project Leader Skills

  • People-management skills such as constructive feedback, conflict resolution, managing individual styles and personalities... More

Managerial Communication

Humorous Quotes: Relationships

"I drink to make other people interesting." George Jean Nathan

14 Ways To Nourish Conflict

If you love conflict in your life, don't listen to anyone. Especially if someone is already hot under the collar, any sign of not listening will turn up the heat.

Yin-Yang of Effective Listening

10 Rules of Listening

By: Linda Eve Diamond

Rule #1: Stop Talking! You can't multi-task speaking and listening. If you're talking, you're not listening. This rule also applies to the talking inside your head. If you're thinking intently about what you want to say, you're not listening to what is being said.

Mental Fengshui: 21 Rules

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

Do You Know How To Connect with People?

Connecting with people "is not about being phony or acting like someone you are not; it's about creating a favorable link between your internal nature with its beliefs and values, and the external world where you go to work."1 Learning to connect fast with your customers, colleagues, bosses, employees, and even total strangers by taking full advantage of your body, your mind, your voice, and above all your imagination will give you a significant competitive edge. It will help you maximize the potential in every relationship, be it personal, business-related, or social... More

Can Your Communicate Effectively?

The three aspects (KFC) of effective communication are:

  • Know what you want

  • Find out what you are getting

  • Change what you do until you get what you want... More

Humorous Business Plan: Great Communicator

Targeted Market: "I like to talk with people who express my thoughts clearly." Unknown...

Communication Management Skills: "Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth." Oscar Wilde

 Humorous Tips from Men  25 Rules for Women

If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.

We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.

Are You an Effective Leader?

12 Major Causes of Failure in Leadership

Effective leaders recognize that what they know is very little in comparison to what they still need to learn. To be more proficient in pursuing and achieving objectives, you should be open to new ideas, insights, and revelations that can lead to better ways to accomplishing goals. This continuous learning process can be exercised, in particular, through engaging yourself in a constant dialogue with your peers, advisers, consultants, team members, suppliers, customers, and competitors... More

6 Attributes of Successful CEOs

  1. Exhibiting Appropriate Leadership Style and People Skills. A poor leadership style and people skills ultimately have a negative impact on an executive's tenure at their own firm. Some executives can clearly get the job done quickly, but the 'dead bodies' left in their wake can take years for the organization to recover.

A Leader's Mood: The Dimmer Switch of Performance

How do you work on attaining the consistent, emotionally intelligent leadership behaviors that breed success in yourself and others? Here are a few other suggestions to consider that can improve your and your team's performance

Inspirational Leader: 10 Roles

5 Strategies for Managing Up

There are five laws that you absolutely must follow if you have any hope of creating, maintaining, and managing any productive relationship with your boss... More

Selling by Coaching

"We are all salesmen every day of our lives.  We are selling our ideas, our plans, our enthusiasm to those with whom we come to contact." ~ Charles M. Schwab

To be a great salesperson, you must treat your prospective customer as a player who wants to achieve extraordinary results. You are to help the player win.... More

Selling Is Problem Solving

Become an Irresistible Sales Communicator

Despite what most books and seminars teach, successful selling is not a set of strategies, techniques or tactics to get the prospect to buy.

Rather it is a state of mind yours and your customer's and set of behaviors that creates compelling win/win outcomes for everyone.

Socratic Questions

Socratic questioning is at the heart of critical thinking they enhance your critical thinking skills.

Socratic questions challenge accuracy and completeness of thinking in a way that acts to move people towards their ultimate goal... More

Memorization Problems: Solved!

Have you ever had problems in remembering names, numbers, grocery items needed, and other little details such as the location where you placed your car keys this morning? The truth is, we all have our moments of forgetting little bits of information that matters at the exact moment we need them. But did you know that memorization techniques boil down to two basic things?

Humorous Business Plan: Success in Love

Brief History: "Men always want to be a woman's first love women like to be a man's last romance." Oscar Wilde...

Growth Strategy: "If men knew all that women think, they'd be twenty times more daring." Alphonse Karr

Market Analysis: "Women are made to be loved, not understood." Oscar Wilde





Russian proverbs

No one should go to another monastery with one's own charter.



Confucius advice

Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire.
Forget injuries, never forget kindnesses.
When anger rises, think of the consequences.




Happiness 360: the Three Loves

Strive To Make People Happier

Solving People Problems

10-Step Yoga Guideline for Resolving Inner and Outer Conflict

10 Rules of Effective Networking

The Tao of Communication

Communication GEM

Confucius about Communication

Empower People Around You

Job Hunting 101

Jokes and Humorous Quotes

Social Evolution: from Love to 'Like'

How To Reduce Lying in this World: 8 NEVERs

Relationships, Love

Internet Entrepreneur

3 Partnership Secrets


12 Rules of Effective Listening


Lessons for Leaders (by Xenophon)

How To Lead Creative People



Employee Empowerment

Empowerment vs. Delegation

10 Steps To Empowerment

Getting Employees Involved: 9 Ways

Teamwork: 5 Characteristics of a Winning Team

17 Indisputable Laws of Teamwork

Model of a Team Leader

Effective Selling

How To Sell Your Ideas To Decision Makers

How To Present With Passion

Selling by Listening